Nigerian singer, Bez’s wife, Tito Idakula has reacted to a post which advised women to hide their pregnancies, following news of the birth of Adesua Etomi and Banky W’s first child.
Idakula countered the advise and stated that there are many women who hid their pregnancies from the public but still suffered painful losses, and there are those who shared the news and went on to have healthy babies.
She noted that it is the choice of a family to determine if they want to go public or not. She added that what such notion does, is put the blame on families who have experienced painful losses.
THIS POST PISSED ME OFF!!
I had to bring this here to address something. This is putting blame on families who have experienced painful losses. Everyone has a CHOICE. Many people hid their pregnancies and still had painful losses. Many shared and have beautiful healthy babies. Simi even announced her pregnancy and inspired so many women to find joy during a sensitive season. That she chose not to announce the birth of her baby was her CHOICE, same with Adesua.
Everything is a choice but messages like these are subtly placing blame on people who are already grieving and struggling with guilt in one way or the other. Please let us STOP IT! It is hardly EVER a woman’s fault when she has a miscarriage or a baby loss and that is something doctors always say! Please please please, if we can’t be supportive or encouraging, let us just keep these opinions that are filled with blame and shame to ourselves!
See her Instagram post below,