Twitter user @thembisile_q, narrated that the single mother who had a child from a prior relationship and was scheduled to get married reportedly called off the union. The fiancé and his family had allegedly refused her bringing the child into the marriage.
Read what she tweeted:
“I stan this girl. She cancelled her engagement mid lobola negotiations because her fiance and his family wouldn’t allow her to move in with her child from her previous relationship. We really shld have a conversation about the damage & abandonment issues that come with being left behind as a child while your mother gets married and have other kids. Some of them grow up to be very resentful and angry at their mothers because their well being isn’t guaranteed.”
Netizens were concerned why the couple did not have this discussion during the course of their relationship and had to wait till the last possible time.
Read some comments below:
@mangkgateng wrote “Is this not a convo that she should of had with her partner before even agreeing to marry him ?”
@bekithembanyat3 wrote “But this is an issue that is discussed and agreed before you decide to marry? The family has no right in this. It’s a tricky situation if the father is alive and is part of the child’s life it might be uncomfortable or I completely adopt the child and raise it as my own.”
@itaichapunza wrote “This should have been discussed between the two of them before there was a lobola date.
Ladies, If he doesn’t want the child, it’s likely that he will not change even if papa prays for him.
And gents, if you dont want the children don’t date single mothers”
