We were originally billed to delve into how to make a good choice with online dating, but a more urgent topic came up based on feedback from last week, and we wanted to address it asap.
How ladies who exercise the option of using on dating websites are treated, and how it can be managed.
Let us all acknowledge that ladies have been the most impacted by the negative perception of online dating. Romantic relationships are about 2 consenting adults making the decision to come together for the purpose of exploring their chances of building a loving, sweet, long lasting relationship.
Both gender are needed for a meaningful relationship to be forged, because no-one will marry him/herself.
The above fact notwithstanding, when the topic of online dating is raised, ladies have taken a lot of heat. Such derogatory language like “Owerri gals”, “Ekiti gals” “Olosho” to name a few. Then there is the stigmatization for trying online dating. Ladies are targeted, harassed, verbally abused, sexually shamed and in some extreme cases they have been stalked and may even be physically assaulted.
This harassment has come from many quarters, and even some unexpected quarters. One such quarter is the “Christian soldiers” angle claiming that finding a partner through online dating is wrong and the bible doesn’t condone it.
While this is not our main discussion, it bears delving into because many folks have used “Christianity” as a cudgel, and this is unfair to true Christians.
In reality, some of these behaviors stem from
- Ignorance
- Parochialism
- Misinterpretation
- Preconceived childhood trauma
IGNORANCE
Those who condemn online dating have no understanding of exactly what it means. It is likely their first interaction with online dating were some “free to use/join” sites which were free for all, and it gave them a very negative impression. They got stuck there, and never educated themselves further, nor asked questions. They based their opinions on “following the herd” or what they heard “someone say”, and they come out swinging against it.
PAROCHIALISM
This is the bane of a lot of divisions in our society. We have a situation of stereotyping folks as a result of ethnicity, or as a result of religion, career and this also has dovetailed to any issue they are unable to understand, and guess what? Online dating is something they have no comprehension, so they judge it negatively. Folks like this are held captive by narrow mindedness, and are afraid of current ideas, or change. They will frequently refer to the way it used to be “in those days” not liking any form of emancipation particularly for women.
MISINTERPRETATION
Many folks hide in the scripture/Bible/Religion to denounce online dating, as though God expressly told them so. Someone mentioned that it is from hell/antichrist. Technology has done the world a lot of good, and also a lot of bad, but we can say decisively that it is not technology that is bad, BUT how it is used. Our phones, vehicles, TV, gadgets, and all the latest tech are not evil in themselves, nor is watching cable, satellite TV, or making calls bad, but it is how it is used, that creates the influence it has.
PRECONCIEVED CHILDHOOD TRAUMA
Some folks grew up with a wrong notion about what ladies are “supposed” to do or be like. For these folks, anything outside that is plain wrong. They have a fixed image in their mind/opinion of the “Right way” for a woman to do. This behavior permeates their whole purpose, and often they are difficult to convince.
From the above, we see that how folks treat online dating has roots in many issues, as the reasons above are not exhaustive.
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