Last Saturday, I discussed the story of a 34-year-old virgin whose suitor insisted she should get pregnant before he would marry her. I got responses and diverse opinions from the public, especially men! I shall publish a few today so others in her situation can learn.
To a certain extent, one may not blame a man who may be scared of ending up with a woman without a womb, especially with the present generation of ladies who have in conjunction with men turned sex to an indoor game and lost all sense of value! However, the wish of God for us is to have the marriage bed undefiled no matter what anyone thinks. So, it’s as simple as lying on your bed just as you laid it!
I really do hope girls are reading these articles and learning because it appears it will get harder for a lot of ladies to find men to settle down with in marriage since we’ve got to what was reported in Isaiah 4:1: “In that day, seven women will take hold of one man and say, ‘We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!’”
Hmmmmm….life isn’t going to be funny for the average female unfortunately except those who practically carry God on their heads with some violence in their spirits and get Him to avail them the life of their dreams!
Dear sister,
I planned to remain a virgin till my wedding night but when the tension was too much, I gave in. I abstained from sex until 23 and how it happened I can’t explain till today. I am now 28 raising my son alone, biting the finger of ‘had I known!’
My son is my happiness, but truth be told, it has never been easy doing it all alone although I left myself because of family hatred and lack of peace of mind. Please and please, I urge you not to give in — that’s a glorious virtue you have with you, please keep it.
— Miss Chioma
To be honest, the situation is a bit challenging, but since she can abstain till her present age, she can as well keep it up because some of us are not that disciplined. Way forward: she needs to get involved in social and religious activities and she should not let anyone tag her as ‘my girlfriend’ when they’re just an onlooker.
Be more prayerful, dress well with less artificial colouring, and be respectful and polite when talking to others because someone might be watching you from a distance and sometimes, it’s not for themselves but for someone very dear to them. ‘Don’t say yes when you mean to say No, like Sisi Eko.’ I wish you all the very best.”
–A.K. Adewolu
The man ought to be proud of you. Don’t give room for such a man. If the love is not there, once he sleeps with you, then you stand the chance to lose your dignity.”
–Michael Henry
First, you must understand that every time you take a decision to stand for something that’s not common, you need not compare yourself to anyone and never envy anyone. There’s nothing special about whatever anyone has in life. I have seen a woman who died in an accident the same day with all her three children two Christmases ago. This last festive period, a woman got burnt with pregnancy and the only daughter she had while traveling. That’s how life can be fleeting. I’m not mocking anyone. It’s just to let you know all these ‘someone has this, someone has that’ is irrelevant. Another thing is that the moment you decide on something not common, you’ll face uncommon troubles that intend to discourage you. The only thing I can assure you of is that ‘If it’s God you’re keeping your virginity to please, He won’t disappoint you!’ No one has ever obeyed God and ended up disappointed. In the end, the promise of God shall speak; it may tarry, it may look delayed. Habakkuk 2:1-4. Don’t give up! Don’t give in! Don’t surrender to the deceptive manipulation of the devil. All those men looking for sampling don’t truly love you and won’t marry you.
Imagine giving in. Then you get pregnant. Then he absconds. Those friends who respected you before now see you pregnant when you’re not married, how would you then feel? Look around you — there are many who are regretting their marriages. I know two families who are yet to have a child after 15 and 20 years of marriage. Calm down! God’ll settle you soon!
–Afolabi Oluwole Nath
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