Mindfulness is an intellectual capacity which is learnt through the process of reflection to maintain a state of awareness by paying attention to your thoughts and feelings in the present moment. Learning the simple act to mindfulness in your daily lives as you approach a new year will grant you a new understanding and free your minds from certain behaviour and patterns that has held your marriage captive in the past. Couples who practice mindfulness have proved to be more thoughtful, tolerant, and selfless towards each other and their marital commitment. A simple reflection of your marriage can be a great affirmation to usher in a happy this New Year.
Let bygones be bygones
While some people dwell more on their past, others look forward to the future and have learnt to appreciate the beauty of leaving the scars of the past behind and ready to embrace the inevitable change. A spouse who dwells in the past is more likely to have anxiety-prone personality and often afraid to embrace new opportunities, however there is no shame in this feeling but the only constant thing in life is change which can wash away the scars of the past. It is important to be mindfulness of those attitudes that has held you back as a couple such as constant references to past conflicts, relationships, and failures and start to live mindfully in the present moment so that you can both experience the abundance of marriage together.
Learn to become vulnerable
The lack of mindfulness in your personal lives can create unpleasant mood swings and a spirit of negativity even when you are by a positive minded people. It can also create instability and trigger stress related issues and unpleasant emotions at every challenging moment in your marriage. It is important to be mindful of these negative feelings and how they have impacted on your spouse and marriage and have an honest conversation on how you can mitigate the situation in the new year. Many marital problems can be fixed if couples become mindful of each other’s feelings and are vulnerable enough to hold each other’s hands to cross the hurdles of life. This is achievable when you make the conscious effort to embrace the essence of your friendship and spend more quality time together in the coming years and do away with unnecessary distractions that has occupied your intimacy in the past. Friendship is the soul of every good marriage and sharing is caring, only couples who are mindful of carrying each other’s problems can open themselves to solutions and greater expectations in their marriage.
Set Realistic Mindful Objectives Together
Even though mindfulness can bring a massive benefit to your marriage, it can be difficult to comprehend if you and your spouse are not in sync with one another, however you can help your spouse to set some realistic mindful objectives that can be achievable in the short term. Every little step towards mindfulness is better than nothing. Try and reassess your goals together as you set on your journey. A simple act of kindness, gentleness, and curiosity in showing interest in how you both spend your day when you were apart is a great act of mindfulness.
Wishing You All a Mindful New Year!
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