Marriage like every other important aspect of life can benefit from periodical appraisal to assess a couple’s performance and progress made so far and discusses wider issues that may be contesting with their objectives for their marriage. However, this can only be effective when both couples are able to understand the significance of self-reflection which creates an opportunity to become more aware of their own strengths and weaknesses, acknowledge and manage their own emotions and intentions too.
Self-aware couples are more visible and objective in their approach towards each other which is critical in developing a healthy marital relationship and wellbeing in general. As you usher in a new year, it is important to reflect on your marriage, the highs, and the lows of the previous year so that you can both evaluate the areas of improvement as you welcome the year 2024.
Self-reflection communicates needs
Self-reflection can make all the difference in a struggling marriage where the couple previous had no experience on how to pilot their marital affairs. You be able to evaluate the positives and negative impacts your thoughts and feelings might have had on your behaviour towards your spouse which may have triggered conflicts that absorbed your marriage in the past. It is only when you have self-awareness that you will be able to communicate your own needs more effectively and take control of your emotions moving forward.
Self-reflection promotes peace
When you are aware of your own strength, you are more likely to initiate peace and be the bigger person in certain situation rather than allow things to escalate this new year. Your new thoughtful disposition will allow you to become more understanding and accepting of your spouse’s opinion more rather than being judgemental so that you can allow the peace your marriage so desperately deserves to reside in your marriage. A new you will allow you to focus more of your energies and strengths on those aspects of your lives that bring you fulfilments as individuals first and as a couple too.
Self-reflection is empowering
Life is unpredictable, and knowing who you are is essential in finding your purpose in life as this is vital for your happiness and brings directions that can influence your life positively. An honest self-reflection of your contribution to the chaos in your marriage is a courageous effort to free your lives from all your marital obstacles. Achieving true purpose can be linked with strengths and capacity which are all products of self-awareness and other attributes in your lives.
Self-reflection embraces self compassion
Self-reflection promotes the spirit of self-awareness which is the first step to nurturing and cultivating the habits of loving yourself and accepting that you can also bring values into your marriage. You can only love yourself when you are open minded to your own flaws through the process of self-awareness. As you appreciate the impact of self- love in relation to your own emotions and your behaviour, you are more likely to embrace self-compassion and devote more time to understand your spouse’s behaviour and begin to pay less attention to your flaws in general. This can mark the beginning of your journey to achieving your marital objectives which are key to your mental and physical health and wellbeing.
Happy New Year everyone!
